The Worst Wedding Planning Advice You'll Ever Receive Part 2

When I asked you all about the worst wedding advice you'd ever received, you shared some DOOSEYS! I couldn't believe the things some of you have been told. Here are just a few of the things you shared, and my responses to each one! 

"Don't hire a planner"

Unless you've learned to time travel (in which case share your secrets!) you cannot be in two places at once. Even if you want to do all the pre-wedding logistics on your own, the day of your wedding you 100% NEED someone to help you run point on all the moving pieces.

You cannot be getting ready, while also receiving the cake delivery. You cannot be lining up for your reception entrances, while also checking the song with the DJ. You cannot be taking pictures with your family while setting centerpieces in the reception room. You need someone with a vested interest in your vision for your day, who can help make it all happen while you relax and enjoy. That's where a day of wedding coordinator comes in.

I'd also ALWAYS recommend hiring a full wedding planner so that throughout the whole planning process you have someone to guide you. Weddings are logistically unlike any other event, and a good planner is going to have insight into different parts of the day that you might naturally overlook. Don't let wedding planning cause you stress - find a wedding planner, or at least a day of coordinator, and spend your big day having fun, not stressing. 

"Everyone should get a plus one"

Just... no. In a world where money is limitless, sure it would be nice to give everyone a plus one. But in this world where someone has to pay for every guest at a wedding (General $100-$150+ a person) why pay for people to come that you don't know or care about? Your friends who know you and care about you will come to support you whether they get a plus one or not. If you want to be generous enough to offer plus ones to your single friends, that's amazing! If you don't, that's ok too! Do what's best for you and your budget. Plus, it's always the plus ones that seem to be photographed or videos on your dancefloor. Is that really who you want to see in your wedding photos or video? 

"If you were invited to or in someone's wedding, you have to invite them to yours"

We're all adults here, right? We can all understand that sometimes in life you are close to someone for a certain time, and then that relationship fades. That. is. ok. You do not need to have someone in your bridal party, or even invite them to your wedding at all. When you look back through photos or video of your day, will you regret spending $150 on dinner for someone you don't talk to, or even worse, having someone in your bridal party that you aren't even friends with anymore? Choose your people carefully and don't sweat the small stuff. 

"You have to have alcohol for it to be a real wedding"

What makes a wedding "real" is the fact that the two of you are coming together to commit to a life together. A kick-as party is made by people, not a type of drink. I've been to weddings where guests were plastered and the party dwindled down quickly. I've also been to weddings where everyone was sober and the dance floor was going strong until the very end! Your guests are ultimately what make your party fun so choose your guests wisely and don't worry about the drinks.  Whatever the reason you might choose not to have alcohol at your wedding, that is a completely valid option and one that the people who love you most will support you in making. Plus, we all know alcohol is $$ so by cutting out that tab, you'll save a lot of money!